Resource guide · Ages 3–5

Helping preschoolers learn about differences, disability, and neurodiversity

Everyone's brain and body work in different ways.Different does not mean bad.People communicate, play, and learn in many ways.Good friends pay attention to what helps others feel safe and comfortable.

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Sesame Street and Autism: Julia resources

Videos, storybooks & printablesAges 2–6Autism · friendship · sensory differences · inclusion

Sesame Workshop offers free autism resources featuring Julia, a 4-year-old autistic Muppet, a bilingual collection for families, providers, and teachers, from toddlers through kindergarten.

Why it works: Julia is presented as a full child, she plays, has friends, has preferences, and sometimes needs support. Children understand autism through everyday experiences rather than abstract explanation.

Let’s Talk About Julia discussion graphic explaining that Julia is autistic. Prompts cover her interests, calm-down corner, inclusion by friends, and what helps each child feel calm.How I Feel and What I Need communication tool matching feelings with supports: headphones or covered ears for overwhelm, a break for nerves, and words, gestures, or toys to invite play.

Parent talking prompts

“Julia is autistic. That means her brain works in its own way.”

“What helped Julia feel comfortable?”

“What are some things Julia likes?”

“How did her friends include her?”

“What helps you feel calm when something is too loud or too busy?”

Activity idea:“What Helps Me?” chart

Make a simple family chart with three columns, When I feel… / It helps me to… / A friend can…

Nervous about loud sounds → headphones → give me spaceI feel nervous → hold a favorite toy → wait quietlyI want to play → use words, gestures, or show a toy → notice my idea

This helps children learn that everyone has needs, not just autistic children.

About this guide

Young children naturally notice differences. They may notice when someone talks, plays, or moves differently, uses a wheelchair, wears headphones, needs extra help, does not want a hug, or has strong emotions. Adults don't always know what to say in these moments, but simple and warm conversations can help children understand and respond with curiosity, respect, and kindness.

These resources are meant for any young child, autistic children, siblings, classmates, teammates, and friends, who is beginning to understand that people may think, communicate, move, play, and experience the world in different ways. For autistic children, they can support early self-understanding and a positive sense of identity. For siblings and peers, they encourage empathy, flexibility, respect, and inclusive friendships.

How to use this guide

Keep it simple: read a book or watch a video together, pause when something stands out, and ask one or two easy questions. A few sentences during play, snack, bath time, or bedtime are usually more helpful than a long explanation.

“His brain likes things to be in order.”“She talks in a different way.”“Loud sounds bother him, so headphones help.”“She is still part of the group, even if she plays differently.”“Everybody needs help with some things. Everybody is good at some things.”

Words parents can use

Small swaps that turn awkward moments into warm ones.

“That child is weird.”“That child is doing something differently. Everyone's body and brain work in different ways.”
“Don't stare.”“You can notice, and you can be kind. If you have a question, ask me quietly.”
“He can't talk.”“He communicates in a different way.”
“She doesn't want friends.”“She might want to play in a quieter way or need more time.”
“Use your words.”“Show me, point, gesture, or tell me if you can.”

Activities for any book or show

Same and different

“How are you and the character the same? How are you different?”

What helps?

“What helped the character feel safe, calm, included, or understood?”

Many ways to communicate

Practice words, gestures, pictures, facial expressions, pointing, and drawing.

Sensory walk

Notice sounds, lights, textures, smells, and movement, different people like different sensations.

Kind friend practice

Role-play with stuffed animals: one wants a hug, one wants space, one plays alone, one uses headphones.

Children do not need perfect explanations. They need repeated experiences of seeing differences discussed with warmth, respect, and matter-of-fact language. When adults talk openly and kindly about autism, disability, neurodiversity, and differences, children learn that inclusion is not a special lesson, it is part of everyday friendship.

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